What would change if you stopped managing everyone else’s emotions?
Monthly Love Letter for April 2025
This month, a more familiar message has been echoing through my life with even more persistent clarity. It’s something I’ve already been sharing lots with you.
It’s been arriving in abundance… through my hypnosis clients, in conversations with friends, even between the lines of the shows I watch.
The reminder is this:
I am allowed to prioritize my needs over the comfort of others.
Not just once. Not just in emergencies. But as a way of being.
Recently, a dear friend reflected something back to me that felt like a deep message in my body about the power of the habitual pattern of people-pleasing and putting others’ comfort above our own needs… not because we don’t know better, but because we’ve been taught to feel responsible for other people’s emotions. It’s the second part that perhaps I wasn’t giving as much depth to.
Somewhere along the way of our early lives, many of us were taught that our value comes from smoothing things over. Being easy to love. Easy to be around. Non-disruptive. Being agreeable even if whatever it is we’re agreeing too wildly conflicts with our inner knowing.
But what we’re not aware of at the time is that this kind of self-abandonment is quiet and corrosive.
Because every time we choose their comfort over our truth, a part of us goes quiet and is silenced.
A need gets dismissed.
A boundary is blurred.
And we reinforce a story that someone else’s feelings matter more than our own wholeness.
But what I keep learning… again and again… is that we were never meant to carry that responsibility.
Other people’s emotions are not ours to manage.
I invite you to remember that our needs are not obstacles.
They are invitations to come home to ourselves.
This isn’t about turning away from others.
It’s about turning toward ourselves.
There is radical honesty in saying:
“I need something different.”
“This doesn’t feel aligned anymore.”
“I’m not available to hold that right now.”
“I get to change my mind.”
There is healing in making space for our discomfort without immediately fixing someone else’s.
And there is liberation in realizing that love and truth can coexist… even if they shake things up.
So here are your permission slips, you can return to again and again…
🕳️ I am allowed to put myself first.
🕳️ I am allowed to make choices that honour my energy, feelings, and truth.
🕳️ I am allowed to feel peace in your body, even if it disappoints someone else.
🕳️ I am not responsible for managing anyone else’s emotions.
🕳️ I am responsible for staying true to myself
Let this love letter be your invitation to put yourself first.
Lots of love,
💕Lauren
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JOURNAL PROMPTS
Where in my life am I currently prioritizing someone else’s comfort over my own needs?(What does my body feel or say when I notice this?)
What early messages or experiences taught me that it was my job to manage other people’s emotions?
(How might those beliefs still be shaping my choices today?)What would it feel like to trust that my needs are valid, even if they’re inconvenient for someone else?
What’s one boundary I’m ready to honour or reinforce… even if it makes someone uncomfortable?
What version of peace am I longing for within myself, and what permission do I need to give myself to move closer to it?
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Trust that whatever comes to heart first is exactly the answer that you get to celebrate… no over thinking involved here!
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